Woman's Touch: Dating Do's and Dont's For Females
It can be difficult to be a woman in the dating arena. A lot of
things can go wrong for you more than it can for your male
counterpart. Plus, men can be really dense about a few things.
Well, no worries. Here are a few tips on what to do and not to
do during a date:
1) Timing is important - Timing as in 'on time'. No matter what
they say, there is no such thing as 'fashionably late'. For the
first date, this can give the guy jitters and make him think
that you've stood him up. For the later dates, having him wait
for you in the living room for half an hour with either your
roommate, your sister or, worse, your father is not something
you want him to do - whether it be for the embarrassing stories
or Dad's 'eyes of doom'.
2) Keep your head on straight - Yes, we all know dates are
supposed to be fun, but knowing what's going on is important
both for your own safety and for you love life. Is your date
acting suspicious or just nervous? Maybe you'd want to end the
date early or do something to calm him down. Is he taking notice
of what you're wearing or just ogling? The choice to either wink
at him or just stare knowingly is up to you. Is his attention on
you or the girl next to you? You might wish to reward him with a
smile or a slap. Situational awareness is not just for soldiers
on the front but also for young women on the prowl.
3) Be nice - Have a positive attitude, find things that you like
and tell him. Compliment him about his clothes, how he looks and
how well the date is going. It puts him at ease and also makes
him feel important. It also shows him that you're taking notice
of him and you appreciate him. But, don't lie. Like I said, look
at the bright side of things - the service of the restaurant may
have been slow but the ambience was terrific. Try making it into
a habit, you aren't lying - you're just being diplomatic!
4) Do not complain - This may be technically part of tip three,
but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn't mean that you
shouldn't tell him that something is wrong or something makes
you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is
important here. 'Venting', like we do with our girl friends, is
not going to go over well with him since he'll probably
misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date
in calm, reasoned tones your problem. Trust me, he'll understand
and he'll try to make it up to you.
5) Enjoy the date - A date is a chance to get to know each other
and to enjoy yourselves. Have fun during the date. Try not to be
hyper-critical and just take things in stride. If you're not
having fun, your date will notice and, trust me, he will get
nervous which will probably start ruining the experience for
both of you. Also, just let your guard down for a little while.
Let him see the real you. He may or may not like it, but in the
end he will appreciate the honesty of the act. Besides, if he
doesn't like you for you, why should you keep on dating?
6) Afterwards, show interest - If you really like the guy,
waiting for the call after a successful date is nerve-wracking.
You know he's interested and you're definitely interested,
you're just waiting for him to call you so you could arrange
another date. Try giving him a day or two. He usually has to get
his act together and work up the courage to call. If he doesn't
call, he's probably still tongue-tied from being in your
presence. Call him up to say hello. Talk about the date and how
you had fun and give hints. No matter how dense he will pick up
on it and he'll probably be asking you for another date!
7) Be consistent - For those who've crossed the 'First Date'
Rubicon, try maintaining the impression you made on him on that
first date. Men don't like surprises except, of course, if they
plan them. This doesn't mean, however, that you'll just give him
the first date you. Talk to each other, both on and off dates,
to get to know each other more. What he got on the first date
was a sneak peek, what he should get from your continued dating
should be the entire reel.
Well, there they are seven tips for dating success! Hopefully,
this advice could help lead you through today's tough tangle of
relationships. Happy hunting!
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